Dating – Be Prepared For Getting Hurt

Many of us hate dating for all the trouble it involves. You never know what kind of person will your date be? You have some clues, but as you know more about him/her, your enthusiasm 강남오피 dips. You had never asked for such a dating partner. There is nothing ㅇㅍ후기 common between both of you and as you have more dates, you 오피후기 start thinking that you don’t like this person. He/she may not be well groomed, or may be always coming late, talking few things that you don’t understand and this all creates confusion in your mind.

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How do I say no now and begin with another date. The same process has to be repeated. It all is so tiring. In the beginning, we are full of enthusiasm, but after few experiences, the enthusiasm wanes. Tiredness takes over us. Let me forget dating for a while and focus on my career/studies. This dating frustrates me totally. I would rather live alone and do better. I am tired and confused. You may not alone thinking all this. This situation is not very uncommon.

Can one stop dating altogether? Very few can do that. We need a partner to fulfill us. We need somebody to share the life. The loneliness can be worse. What is to be done? If you are encountering repeated failures, please give yourself a break for few days. Think about what all went wrong. Whether your choices were wrong or your expectations were not clear to you? Find out more about what you want and how can you attract someone who has those qualities. Forget the past failures. Clean the slate and restart.

Dating – Are You Shy With Opposite Sex?

Many of us are shy talking to the opposite sex. That takes us no where. We are scared of talking to any person of opposite sex. Something happens that stops us. Why do we get scared? We are not scared of talking to persons of our own sex. We are confident about ourselves. We have enough self-esteem, and we value ourselves as desirable. Then why? It is as if there is a switch in the mind that is switched off and says no when it comes to talking with persons of opposite sex.

What can be done about this? This problem has to do with our mind. Our mind tells us that we are not worthy. We may be rejected. We may be laughed at. Our mind warns us to defend ourselves from this and says no – you are not to approach anyone from the opposite sex. This is the mechanism of mind. Fight or flight. In this case, we resort to flight. But with this running away, we will never get a desirable partner. We will always remain alone and only wistfully watch other couples going around. So what should we do?

The very first step in such cases is to evaluate our self and compare ourselves with our friends. Are we as smart as they are? Are we as intelligent as they are? Are we as confident as they are? Are we as presentable as they are? Is our personality equally good? On most of these issues you may find that you are scoring more points than your friends. So one thing is established. You are a desirable person. If your friends are not shy, why are you? Gather the strength and approach persons of opposite sex with confidence. Don’t worry about rejections. There can be many reasons for that. Approach smartly and you will surely get some one good to date. Good Luck.

Dating: Lessons In Love

Are you on the look out for a boyfriend/girlfriend? Have you been single for a while? Have you somebody in mind who you would like to go on a date with? A few years ago I thought that I knew what my ideal partner or girlfriend would look and be like. I was however about to learn a very valuable lesson of which I will write about in this article.

I am quite short for a male and always prefer to date women who are smaller than I am. This however counts quite a lot of them out. I also like women who are very down to earth and who are quite relaxed about life, not too into themselves for example. I also prefer them to be brunette with a nice smile and attractive eyes, a slim figure would also be a bonus.

What I have just described is what I believed to be my perfect girlfriend. This whole notion was blown out of the water around ten years when I had to work on a project at work with a woman called Sam. She was about ten years older than I was and I will never forget what my first impressions of her were. What a mess, I thought. She had made no effort with her appearance, had not even brushed her hair it seemed, she dressed as if she was twenty years older than she actually was and basically looked like she had not slept the night before.

This may seem quite cruel and harsh, this is what I used to be like back then, I am ashamed to think about how my mind used to work. I am happy however that I have now changed to be what I hope is a nicer person.

Despite these first impressions I have to say that Sam was so nice and helpful to me over the next three months. She is probably one of the kindest and purest people I have ever met.

After about ten weeks of first meeting Sam, I started to dream about her and I think I fell in love with her. She had not suddenly made an effort with her appearance, still looked a mess etc. The fact was it did not matter to me anymore, it was what was inside that counted.

I never ever admitted to Sam how I felt as she was married, I think her husband is one of the luckiest men alive.

Thanks Sam for teaching me a very important lesson in love.

Dates Need Adequate Product Safety Labeling

Such consumer oriented labeling as “Warning: this date may be hazardous to your emotional health” or “Lifetime unconditional love guarantee” should be easily visible on all new dates. Unfortunately the only labeling you may find on your next date may be a patch of material that says “Polo” or “Dockers.” This, however, is insufficient data and fails to give even the slightest clue regarding:

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So how do you know what you are getting into or if your potential partner will even fit your needs? How do you know if your relationship is destined for the recycle shop or if it is durable enough to weather many seasons of the heart? Although you can never take all the risk out of relationships, what you can do is attempt to put the odds of success more in your favor. Potential mates don’t come with adequate product safety labeling but there are recognizable signs, “stop signs” and “warning signs”, that can let you know if the “Joe Camel” you are going out with is potentially dangerous to your emotional health. These signs and signals can alert you to potential problems that can lead the unaware down the road to relationship ruin. Some of the possible “stop signs” and the potential relationship problems that they may be warning you of include:

STOP SIGN or WARNING SIGN and POTENTIAL PROBLEM

– Your date becomes very angry over little things. His anger seems disproportionate to the event. He may be a rageaholic. He may have stored lots of past anger that he will eventually aim at you.

– He is extremely critical toward himself, puts himself down. He seems to be an extreme perfectionist. In time that criticism will be directed toward you too. He may expect the unreasonable.

– He bounces checks, has credit problems, unpaid parking tickets, is always late, and makes commitments then breaks them. You’re not dealing with a grown-up. You may be signing up to be his Mommy. You can’t fix him!

– Your date can’t have fun without drinking. He structures his social activities and free time around bars. He’s a potential alcoholic and he may also be addicted to other substances.

– Your date frequently flirts with other women. He makes suggestive comments to your friends and likes “men’s clubs”. He may be a sex addict. You’ll never feel secure. He could be unfaithful and unavailable emotionally.

– He has no long-term friends, few acquaintances and no long-term relationships. Forget the excuses, this is someone who is unable to bond with others. You won’t last long either.

– He is an emotional wreck. He seems to desperately need someone to heal his broken heart and help him get his life back on track. When you’ve exhausted yourself nursing him back to health, he won’t be there for you. That’s not his role. He’s the victim.

– Your date avoids talking about his past, especially his childhood. He says “what’s over is over” and “I just don’t think about it.” He could be hiding major unresolved emotional problems from childhood. Those problems will surface with anyone with whom he gets close.

– He has just ended a several year relationship. He says he is over her and ready to start dating again. Rebound alert! He may want to be ready to date but probably isn’t. He may yet go back to his ex- partner.

– Your date is uncomfortable with the idea of marriage counseling. He insists that the two of you can handle any problem that might come up. If a major problem does emerge, he won’t be open to help. He may be unable to face problems or even talk about serious issues. Look out!

Ignoring these “stop signs” and the warnings that they signal can create huge relationship problems. Denying, minimizing, rationalizing, or in some other way making excuses for the other person is usually a form of self-deception. This is a way that people often set themselves up for some very painful consequence.

It is not always easy shopping for the love of your life. The product safety labeling isn’t prominently displayed. But there are warning signs, stop signs and behavioral tags that tell the truth about what they are made of.

Date Ideas – Top Romantic Ideas for Couples

Don’t waste another second stressing over what you need to do and where you need to go on a date. We’ve compiled a list of sure fire winners.

1) Prior to a date…stake out a nice secluded location near a park, beach, lake, rose garden, or “special place“…and leave a single stem rose along with a letter telling your sweetie how much they mean to you. After you’re done with dinner, take your date to the special place where the rose and letter are. Let them stumble upon it.

2) Take your sweetie back to where the two of you first met or had your first kiss. Take along a video camera and interview them about that first day.

3) Take a trip to the beach or lake and have a picnic by the water. Afterwards, take a long walk along the shore. When the sun starts to set…throw down a blanket and watch it as you’re sitting side by side.

4) Tell your sweetie that you’ve planned a surprise date. Instruct them to show up at your house dressed to impress at a certain time.

Greet them at the door in your classiest outfit. Have food from their favorite restaurant (order takeout) on the dining room table. Have your living room set up as a dance floor with candles all around. Have your favorite love songs playing in the background.

5) Pretend you’re an old married couple. Go to the grocery store together and buy ingredients for the full course meal the two of you are going to make. After dinner, you guys can snuggle up on the couch and watch rented movies.

6) A treasure hunt with you as the treasure. Tell your sweetie to meet you at a pre-arranged location (but don’t tell them what they’re about to do). When they get there…have a letter or note waiting for them that explains the treasure hunt. Give them directions that lead to the next clue. Do this about 4-5 times. Leave lollipops and chocolate kisses and gifts at each location. When they finally get to you, be waiting with a rose. After this…take them out to dinner or lunch at their favorite restaurant.

7) Make a photo album of yourselves. Get all decked out in your best clothes and go to your town’s landmarks and have passersby take your picture. Get the film developed in double exposures at a one hour photolab. Take the pictures and make his and hers photo albums.

8) Drive-in movie. Though they’re hard to find…track one down.

9) Pretend you’re a savvy swinging couple. Get dressed up: her in a dress….him in a coat and tie. Have dinner at a posh or fancy restaurant. Afterwards, go for a romantic walk in a local rose garden.

Consider Using A Dating Service

There are many people in the world that are looking for that special someone to share their life with. In fact, as a counselor, I meet with countless people everyday who are looking for love and are just not sure where to find it. I have learned that people are somewhat desperate to find true love and that they will often go to extreme measures to find someone special. One method that I often suggest to my clients is using a dating service.

If you asked me ten years ago if I would ever suggest that people use a dating service, I would have definitely said no. I would have said that people need to find their special someone on their own and that a dating service is just a phony way that people are using to try to make money. But I have seen multiple clients try a dating service and find great success. They met amazing people and are all settled and married with children.

If you are thinking about using a dating service, then do so with caution. While there are many great dating services out there, there are also a lot of poor services that only seek to get your money and keep you hooked on the hope of finding true love with people that don’t really exist in their dating service. So be careful that you take time and do research to find a great dating service.

Ask your friends or people you know that have used a dating service with success for their suggestions. Proceed with caution in this process and realize that no dating relationship will ever fulfill you until you are fulfilled within yourself. That is one of the biggest misunderstandings people have of relationships is that they will find satisfaction and completeness in a relationship. I always work to teach my clients about taking the time to learn themselves and to learn the things that they are passionate about.

A dating service can be a great way for solid people to meet one another and to begin exploring romantic relationships. Call and research dating services in your area and also do online searches to learn more. Proceed with caution and be sure of your expectations before you begin any experiences with a dating services.

If you are unfulfilled with your current life, than try out a dating service or two and see what can become of your life and your relationships. You have nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain, so check out a dating service today.

Can she love you more then she loved him?

Maybe you just have met a great women, she is
single, beautiful, and sexy and is deeply in love
with you. She’s perfect for you but… you are
not her first love.

Can she love you more then she loved her first
man? Was that guy better than you in bed? Does
she think of him when is making love with you?
These are the question which crosses your mind
over and over again.

Many people think that the first love is most
powerful in all life time. All of as have heard
the words “you can never forget your first love”.
Is this true?

I have talked with four women, friends of mine
about this subject. All of them are married with
a different man than the one they have loved for
the first time. I had a great surprise; all of
them have told me almost the same things:

First love is mostly passion – second love is
much deeper.

When a woman loves for the first time she thinks
that that man is the only one on the earth and
she has no choice, without him she is lost. When
she loves for second time, she knows that there
are a lot of other available men but she is
CHOOSING to be with the one she loves, because he
is the best for her.

First time a woman can love a guy for no reason,
just because he was the first no matter how he is
treating her. When she loves for the second time
she is able to see his qualities and his
personality, and love him for who he is.

Second time she loves with all her heart because
she knows that he deserves her love. First love
can be full of fear and insecurity. Fear can be a
fuel for passion but is not a nice filling.

These are good news for guys in your situation,
but I didn’t answer yet to biggest question: Does
she think at him when she is with you in bad?

This answer on this question is the opposite of
the one of the next question: “Does she really
love you?”

If she loves you she is enjoying every moment
that you are together, every touch, every kiss.
All that she is thinking is YOU!

It is true, you never forget your first love but
over a time it become just like a story of
someone else, hided in a corner of your mind.

So if you are the one she has chosen, be THE LOVE
OF HER LIFE and forget about her first love. 🙂

You are the man of her life so enjoy it.

Blogs: The Coolest New Dating Tool.

It’s easy to discount blogs as simply tools for newshounds, people who like to gripe or sell things, or teenagers. But blogs and their siblings webcasts are actually a great way to let potential dating and emailing partners know who you are. The best news is that they’re easy to put together and you can do them for free.

Creating A Blog

The simplest way to do a blog is by opening a free account at Blogspot or a similar web service; there are also a few dating sites that are starting to let people blog on their services, though they generally charge a fee. Be certain to do all the basic work, like posting a picture or at least some sort of image to set you apart, and writing your bio.

Now the real work begins. You can make your blog a simple online diary, where you record your daily deeds, or you can write some of your politics, or collect weird news stories and post them online. The only critical thing, if you’re going to refer potential online dating site browsers to it, is that it must reflect who you really are. Never misrepresent yourself; it only leads to a lot of misery on both your part and your potential date’s!

Writing Ideas For Your Blog

Don’t know what to write? You can post absolutely anything you want, even snippets of songs you’ve heard. Do you write poetry or stories? That can go up. Or you can write about what happened to you today, or about your favorite hobby, a celebrity, or a charity you work for. Or you can focus on some of the common blog topics.

A lot of people focus on a certain type of news, generally something they have an inside track on. This is what makes bloggers so formidable a news source. Do you work for a large pharmaceutical company? Don’t ever give away corporate secrets or sneak around, but you can blog about what it’s like, or what the real scoop is on the drug that’s being panned in the news today. Do you have a really fascinating volunteer position with, say, search-and-rescue dogs? You can write about what it’s really like going out to search for someone and finding them. If you think about it, everyone has something fascinating about themselves that they can write about.

If that’s scary to you, or you really can’t think of anything, write about the things you’d like to do. Become a virtual tourist, and write about whitewater rafting with links out to pictures or tour companies. Or write about luxury boats. Share your passions so that your readers, and potential dates, can find out what you love.

What Not To Do In A Blog

Whatever you do, don’t write depressing or angry stuff. No one wants to read about how miserable you are because you don’t have a wife, or how much you hate your job and nothing else. Instead, write about your hopes and dreams, about your idea of the perfect woman (be honest), and about the things you hate about being single and having to date. You’ll almost certainly find people who feel the same way. And it’s having common ground that helps people begin talking online and dating offline.

Best & Worst Date Movies of All Time

The most important decision you can make, one that will make or break the date, is the type of movie you choose to go see. Now if you’re already in a relationship or married, the rules of film selection are a little different

The Golden Rule:Do not go to the movies on the first date. I can not stress this enough. The first date is all about getting to know each other and the movie theater is the last place you’ll be able to do that.

The Movie Rental: If you want to watch a movie and your budget is a little tight, consider renting a movie and taking it back home with you. Ten years ago going to a movie would have been affordable, but things have changed. Admission to a film is about $11 and some theaters even offer luxury seating now which can run you a whopping $15 per ticket. Now factor in the cost of drinks ($10), popcorn ($5), candy ($5), and parking ($2). All of a sudden you can find yourself spending upwards of $50 for a movie.

For about a fifth of the cost you can enroll in programs such as NetFlix which allow you to rent an unlimited amount of movies for a low monthly price and no late fees. You simply select the movie you want and they will be mailed to you in a few days. Once you’re finished watching them, simply place them in the prepaid envelope and ship them back. It’s really that simple.

Watching a movie at home has several advantages:

You can start and stop the movie whenever you like

Talk your heart away since nobody will be there to shush you

You can rent classic or critically acclaimed films which you know are good

And best of all, it only costs about $5

Here are some films for your consideration that are sure to go over well with your date…

BEST FILMS TO RENT – All Genres (No Particular Order)

Ghost (ROMANCE – 1990 – Starring Patrick Swayze, Demi Moore, and Whoopi Goldberg): Ghost is the story of love beyond death…a love endures all type of film. It is why you have to tell people that you love them all the time, because you never know what can happen tomorrow. Ghost shows us that true love is timeless and has no boundaries. The movie has it all: romance, action, and comedy (courtesy of Whoppie Goldberg as Oda Mae Brown). The film is not without its flaws but it is successful at conveying its message and leaving you with a sense of satisfaction.

The Notebook (ROMANCE – 2004 – Starring Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling): The Notebook is a contemporary love story and a favorite with many women. Adapted from the best selling novel, the film tells the story of two “star struck” lovers from different sides of the track. Sound familiar? The movie is about love at first sight…the type of love that you carry with you wherever you go and regardless of the circumstances. The type of love that stays with you throughout your life and doesn’t let you forget.

My Cousin Vinny (COMEDY – 1992 – Starring Joe Pesci and Marisa Tomei): When two young men are convicted of a crime they didn’t commit, it’s up to Joe Pesci (playing a hysterical role as the argumentative attorney from New York) to save them from being sent to the electric chair. My Cousin Vinny is a well written and clever comedy that is sure to be a hit. Marisa Tomei does an incredible job as Joe Pesci fiance; she won an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress.

The Shining (HORROR – 1980 – Starring Jack Nicholson and Shelley Duvall): If you’re into horror, this movie is a must. Directed by Stanley Kubrick, and adapted from the Steven King novel, The Shinning is by far one of the best horror films ever made. Unlike modern horror films, there are no predictable scares, deformed people hiding in the hills, blood thirsty zombies, or girls that decide to stay in the house while a killer is on the phone. Instead, Kubrick brilliantly combines cinematography, music, and sound to create this masterpiece of horror. Keep an eye on the boy…this film gave birth to the over-used emotionless child with ESP so common today (examples include The Sixth Sense, The Ring, The Ring Two, The Grudge, Godsend, Hide & Seek, and even the Got Milk commercial).

A Clockwork Orange (SCIENCE FICTION – 1971 – Starring Malcolm McDowell): Adapted for the screen by Stanley Kubrick, A Clockwork Orange is one of the few films ever made that is able to evoke each and every emotion a human being is capable of having. The movie is a genuine masterpiece; it’s so good that there is nothing anyone can really write that will do this film justice. Be warned in advance that just like any fine piece of art, this film isn’t for everyone. Those who are able to appreciate the film and its underlying message will undoubtedly question every film they have ever seen.

WORST FILMS TO RENT

Let’s face it guys, we love action and we don’t need a plot. If it’s fast paced, bloody, and has lots of guns we love it. Unfortunately, our dates don’t always feel the same way. This actually brings me to my next point and film; if a date ever tells you that her favorite movie of all time is Bloodsport, marry her!

Bloodsport (ACTION – 1988 – Starring Jean Claude Van Damme): I for one love this movie…watching JCVD (Jean Claude Van Damme) do his “deaf touch” and having Chong Li say “Brick Don’t Hit Back” was awesome. But the problem is that if I watched this on a date, it would probably end before the opening credits are over. The same goes for all of our other JCVD favorites such as Kickboxer, Lionheart, and Hard Target. You can actually use these movies to end a date on purpose, but that’s another discussion and another time.

What does this have to do with PlanJam.com?

At PlanJam.com, our goal is to help you plan everyday things, and this includes Dating. Every week I will feature great date movie, both new and old, at the video store or in theaters; so check back often! If you’re looking for an alternative to your typical dinner and a movie, take a look at our Going on a Date section. Our easy-to-use interface allows you to custom build your own date based on five different themes, cuisine type, and even extra’s such as frozen yogurt or cookies.

Benefits Of Online Dating Services

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In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don’t choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.

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Aspiring members are asked to file an application, and are required to meet the guidelines, and requirements that are set by the online dating service. Some online dating services are more discerning than others. A few selected online dating services even require their members to be prescreened before joining. This is done for the safety of the participants. In return, subscribers are asked to make a monthly payment.

Subscribers are often asked to create a profile that relates basic information about themselves. Usually this includes: age, gender, nationality, and place of residence.

For subscribers this also offers them a chance to express themselves. They can get creative with their profiles. They can also include personal information like hobbies, interests, and specify the type of person they are looking for. Profile Benefits of Online Dating Services

In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don’t choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.

Nowadays, there’s a more modern, and organized approach to this mating ritual. Welcome to the world of online dating. There are a lot of advantages that go with this method.

Now singles can meet and greet each other without leaving the refuge of their homes. Sounds crazy, but now this is the most preferred way individuals, especially young people socialize.

One of the greatest things about online dating is that participants get to specify the exact type of person they are looking for. This can be done by joining a dating online service, or posting a personal.

An online dating service is basically a community of people who gather together to interact, socialize, and make friends with each other. There are a lot of online dating services on the internet.

Some online dating services require participants to subscribe to their websites. The great thing about online dating services that are run by subscription, is that their members are assessed before joining.

Aspiring members are asked to file an application, and are required to meet the guidelines, and requirements that are set by the online dating service. Some online dating services are more discerning than others. A few selected online dating services even require their members to be prescreened before joining. This is done for the safety of the participants. In return, subscribers are asked to make a monthly payment.

Subscribers are often asked to create a profile that relates basic information about themselves. Usually this includes: age, gender, nationality, and place of residence.

For subscribers this also offers them a chance to express themselves. They can get creative with their profiles. They can also include personal information like hobbies, interests, and specify the type of person they are looking for. Profile guidelines vary depending on the online dating service participants choose to partake in.

One of the main reasons people choose to participate in an online dating service, is that so many people are doing it! Technically speaking, this increases an individual’s chances of finding the right person that’s meant for him or her.

In 2004, it was estimated that people who lived in the US, spent more than $460 million on online dating services. This means, that a lot of people are seriously getting online and spending money, trying to find their potential soul mates.

Also, singles who are a part of an online dating service know that they are there for a reason, which is to meet people, socialize, make friends, and potentially find the love of their lives. So this takes out the guess work of a person’s intention out of the equation because everyone who is a part of an online dating community is looking for the same thing.

Also, the availability of an online dating service is irresistible. Individuals can avail of their services 24 hours a day! So participants can log on to their online dating service any hour of the day.

If they are bored, staying in bed because of a sore throat, or they just feel like staying at home on a weekend; they can always check if somebody is trying to contact them through their online dating service. They can browse through other people’s profiles and try to seek out the one that strikes their fancy!

There are a lot of online dating services that are absolutely free! This is beneficial to those individuals who are new to the world of online dating services. Those who just want to have some fun and try something new can try out these free services first, and see how it suits them. Later on, they can move on to the more exclusive, by subscription online dating services, once they’ve gotten the hang of online dating.

It is important to note that with online dating services, not everyone who participates, tells the absolute truth! So it vital for participants to practice caution at all times.

An online dating service doesn’t require participants to meet the people they interact with in person. This decision entirely belongs to the participants. So it important to always keep one’s wits about, and practice logic, when engaging in these online activities. This will also ensure the safety of online dating participants, and also allow them to have maximum fun!